Hi mycroft,

Welcome to divorcebusting.com. I'm glad you found us.

I'm sorry you are in so much pain. Marriage can look differently to different couples, I think we hope to be interdependent, but that doesn't always come into play in the day by day for everyone....because our personalities are different and our rate of growth is different.

Things are always longterm what they seem to be in the short term. When there seems to be no hope that doesn't mean there is no hope.

It might not be realistic for you to detach completely. But it will help you and her if you do your best, at least for awhile. It takes the pressure off her. It lets you flourish and center and get back to your best. Put your sights on God.



Jeremiah 29:12-14 gives us some hope:

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, says the LORD, and I will bring you back from your captivity; I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places where I have driven you, says the LORD, and I will bring you to the place from which I cause you to be carried away captive.


Take heart.


And take care of yourself. It's important because YOU are important. It will also make you more attractive to your wife.

I'm concerned about your pain, and I think you should seek some help today....a minister and/or a doctor.


And Listen to Puppy and Phil. Puppy is one of our leaders on the board and is a success story.

Last edited by sgctxok; 07/22/08 07:33 PM.

sg
Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001