I also see some great communication going on with you and your H. And for heaven's sake when you need a hug from now on you WILL ask or initiate one, right???
For what it's worth, I am 100% with you on NOT bearing any responisibility for your H's A. Yes we all contributed to the lousy state of our M's but the decision of what to DO with the unhappiness, discontent etc. is the responsibility of each individual!!! My H has fully owned that.
