Isn't it ironic... don'tcha think?..

[hoosiermama]

Hoosier,

If I'm guessing, the chaplain position is an in-house staff position. Is he ordained though another group?

I would imagine that during the ordination process, the Bishop would inquire about his marital status. The Episcopal Church is not known for it's sound biblical theology, but I imagine they would prevent him from being ordained if they knew he was having an affair.

I was once on the track to ordination and I stopped the process because of my wife's affair. The people in charge felt that though I was not "at fault", it was not wise for me to pursue the ministry with a marriage in crisis. They were right.

I would pay good money just to sit your husband down right now and have a long conversation with him.

---Theoden

Hi, Theo--
Well, H would likely just tell you what a "raving lunatic b*tch" I am and how the failure of the marriage is all my fault. None of this religious stuff is about spirituality for him, it has more to do with leading and teaching and being seen as a really great guy and "being all he can be."

He's not ordained--he has endorsement through the Catholic Church (obviously married folk can't be ordained there) but recently converted to Episcopal in order to pursue priesthood. Eventually I imagine he'll receive endorsement and be ordained there.

I have met the bishop and had several really good conversations with her, the most recent just a couple of weeks before the bomb. I've also talked with his pastor since he left, showed him copies of emails between H and OW. I don't know where things stand with his moving forward. What H told me is that the pastor doesn't see a problem with it; I don't know if that's what he heard or what he wants me to believe (or both), but I cannot imagine that the man would have said that. I know him well; he and his wife and H and I socialized together. Several months before the bomb I met with his discernment group (it's part of the process) and I don't know what they know at this point. I've struggled with contacting the woman I know best and telling her what I know. I've had advice on both sides, and I'm unsure--and when unsure, I think the best choice is to do nothing. It just seems very very bizarre. From what H said in MC this morning, OW is still an EA--altho I have no real way of knowing. Nevertheless, altho he denies it, that EA was a significant factor in at least the timing of the breakup of our marriage--they were acknowledging mutual attraction, fate, and spending the rest of their lives together (that came really really fast) just 2 days before he announced he was done with out marriage--out of the blue. Oh--did I mention that OW practices Wicca? I'm not making this up.