I am thinking of putting forward a proposal to H ... not sure when, and I am only thinking of it, for now. Give me your opinions, please. (I know, Phoenix and Aud, that what I'm proposing is against our C, so it's going to be really extreme for me to go through, but it's been on my mind.)
I understand that helpless feeling, that nothing is going to change because *he* just doesn't get the significance of your feelings/dwindling thereof.
I think from your posts that you've been pretty clear on this with him, and the fact that he blows it off and keeps you shut out does not indicate the level of commitment necessary in a marriage. He does seem to be cake-eating, and I don't think you are required to just sit there and take it.
When you really focus in on what direction you should take in prayer and study, what impressions do you get? Have you and he visited with any church leaders together? I know he wasn't interested in counseling, but at some point, he is responsible for fulfilling his duties as the head of your home (which to me include respecting, loving, and honoring you) and if he is not...well, you get where I'm going with this.
You are only required to love much and do the best you can. The rest is up to God. Do what you feel is best. ((Hugs))
