I think this is backfiring and I"d back off right now. I'm reading my own sitch here and I think you should detach and give space now. The one thing your IC said that was true is that you should start doing things alone with the kids.

This convo will turn into blame and resentment.

I'm still hearing from my W that "I'm not bipolar" whereas my IC thinks she is.

Stop. Give her space. You are smothering her and pressuring her.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;