Hi there. Just another opinion and they are like ...
With my W, I have to walk a very fine line between pursuing and her perceiving my behavior as that I'm moving on. This is my first thought about your W. I would say to be very very careful, but, try as much as you can to find reasons to communicate. When you exchange the kids, you could try being so pumped up about your day that you can't help but ask her about hers. I've purposefully done this. I think that this one is helpful in that it also shows that she isn't the sole focus of your life. One other thing that I do is occasionally send an encouraging e-mail with no other purpose except to encourage her.
W and I are separated, but, not calling it that. She was a single parent for 8 months when I moved for a new job. She wanted 8 months too. But, I have good reason to believe that at least some times she has mentally moved on. So, I started LRT and a bunch of 180s. At one point I began to sense that she was reacting like I was moving on. So, in response, I backed away from LRT/dark to heavy dusk. I will occasionally say ILY, but, not every time I talk to her. I will very occasionally ask about how things are going, but, only if she says something first. I can't tell you how things are going because it's been less than a month since I started. What I can say is that I think that she understands that I haven't moved on yet.
