Mulesqb - Still alive and Kickin'

[mulesqb]

I'll just say this. I don't think your wife was planning a marriage swapping weekend. I do think she was planning on some couples only socializing, and that might be a tad uncomfortable for you, but you've spent plenty of time with them by now.

Definitely not a swinging thing - that's not her (even the new her) or me. Never happen or you would see skid marks. I could handle the neighbors. I'm actually getting along with the H.

My curiosity would have had the best of me, probably making me go on this trip. A couple days without the kids, without the house and work responsibilities? Well, I would really have been interested in why she would want to do that with me and what her plans were.

Exactly where I was - especially when I told her I wasn't going to do the pot smoking.

Don't cross over into punishing her for where she finds herself right now. And I'm not saying you are, but I see the potential for her to read it that way. No trip because of your issues. No sleeping together because of your issues. etc, etc...

I guess I'm coming down still on the side of feeling like loving compassion is a better approach than pulling yourself away. She's already expressed that she feels isolated, unwanted, even unloved. Don't make her perceptions reality.


Remember how she would tell you that she couldn't believe how you were treating her, given how difficult things had been?

See, I would want her to be thinking and feeling that EVERY day.

Great, great point. I'll take a deep breath and slow down. THANKS!!