TCBTE - Sorry you are going through this... You can find me on the 'other' site - in the midlife crisis forum - 'Long Story...Here' thread. Give me a shout if I can help in any way. I think some of my posts may shed some insight as to what I believe to be true during this time.
FW
"When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us." - Helen Keller