what's really nice is that i now can recognize whether something is going to help me accomplish my goal or not accomplish my goal. I know i slipped a little yesterday, but it's something that i needed to do....can't explain it.
then i can come here and vent and talk and cry and do all the things i want to do around/to her....without her being her.
and when i'm near her.....i'm the cool confident guy that is attractice to her.....
Act As If....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
I NEED her to verbally acknowledge she likes the changes
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Neil,
Man up, these changes are for you not her, you are a better person for them anyway. You don't need her validation for good changes, in fact I think your more likely to slip back into the old you if you require her validation...so go into her purse and get your nuts back.
I understand what you are saying...
Hear what I am saying as well...
She fell in love with a man, not a boy.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Man up, these changes are for you not her, you are a better person for them anyway. You don't need her validation for good changes, in fact I think your more likely to slip back into the old you if you require her validation...so go into her purse and get your nuts back.
I do.
still rooting around for them....LOL...
bet she thinks that way too.....LOL.
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Man up, these changes are for you not her, you are a better person for them anyway. You don't need her validation for good changes, in fact I think your more likely to slip back into the old you if you require her validation...so go into her purse and get your nuts back.
I do.
still rooting around for them....LOL...
bet she thinks that way too.....LOL.
If she is anything like my W was then she does.....sorry buddy....my W even used pretty much the same words.
They are back now....which I find out sometimes painfully when my 3 yr olds climb all over me
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TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Neil- wow- lots of changes and i think all good. its normal to backslide a bit- part of the process. you stopped when you knew there was no cheese.
remember to still treat her like a casual friend right now- get your head out of the part that is desparate for her to come home-just stay on your casual friend plan that got you to major progress.
look at how far you have come- please look at the baby steps.
i agree with TD, Bill and JTB....
but since im a girl (((Neil)))
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Guys, I'm curious...... In what part of the purse does a lady carry those things? I love top end designer handbags, they all have a cell phone pocket but nothing for nuts…..
Neil, should I hit you back with the 2x4? You wacked me on Monday. Now it's my turn.
You have been doing wonderfully well. I understand your reaction to seeing the Divorce books. I cringe inside everytime my H brings up the word.
Act as if the D word doesn't exist. It sounds like she is just trying to help the kids understand what mommy and daddy are experiencing right now. There are books for everything.
Keep your head up and don't loose sight of your dignity. You are doing good things.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Guys, I'm curious...... In what part of the purse does a lady carry those things? I love top end designer handbags, they all have a cell phone pocket but nothing for nuts…..
My W has a handful of Coach bags, I honestly think she was extra sneaky and split them up and put them in separate bags so it would be harder to get them back. Normally they are kept deep in the purse amongst all the make-up, coins, pens, etc....lol
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
