Mulesqb - Still alive and Kickin'

[Bworl]

I didn't want to chime in on the Lake George trip.

This is a decision that YOU have to make.

I'll just say this. I don't think your wife was planning a marriage swapping weekend. I do think she was planning on some couples only socializing, and that might be a tad uncomfortable for you, but you've spent plenty of time with them by now.

My curiosity would have had the best of me, probably making me go on this trip. A couple days without the kids, without the house and work responsibilities? Well, I would really have been interested in why she would want to do that with me and what her plans were.

But I understand where you are coming from in your decision.

Don't cross over into punishing her for where she finds herself right now. And I'm not saying you are, but I see the potential for her to read it that way. No trip because of your issues. No sleeping together because of your issues. etc, etc...

I guess I'm coming down still on the side of feeling like loving compassion is a better approach than pulling yourself away. She's already expressed that she feels isolated, unwanted, even unloved. Don't make her perceptions reality.

Remember how she would tell you that she couldn't believe how you were treating her, given how difficult things had been?

See, I would want her to be thinking and feeling that EVERY day.

Not to the point of being a doormat. But again, I don't think she has crossed the line into betrayal.



Blessings,

Bill