whatdidido:I'm wondering if there is a small amount of hope to find in your relationship with your W if you want to see it. But, it takes two.
It does take two, and I have already on several occasions, told W we can work this out, I'm willing to do almost anything, only thing standing between us was OM. She would tell me she wasn't seeing him and when I said we could confirm that by checking her phone records, she caved in, said no and admitted they were still seeing each other.
I was always willing to do what was necessary but I would not put up with OM and she would not give up OM, so bye bye, get out hence the name of my posting: New Abbreviation for everyone TSO = throw spouse out (original post)
I do have hope, but its hope for the future without W - its always been black and white to me get rid of OM and I'll be there for her. I'm scared when she comes crashing down from her dream world, whats going to happen, if she would ever approach me about reconciliation, and how I would handle it.
Working on protecting my kids, my house, my finances, working on me, GAL stuff, working on the house, projects at work, I have a busy life, which keeps me from dwelling on what my W has done to me and is doing to our family.
FYI reading your post whatdidido, boy I'm so happy for you, enjoy yourself, enjoy your family, have fun
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
