Really upside down #2

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YES BUT YOU WERE NOT CHEATED ON BY THIS WIFE. And by refusing to not be fooled again you are treating this wife as a cheater and your snooping, spying and accusing is pushing her away and now out of your life step by step. You are creating a repeat situation of the first wife, even though this one has not cheated you are still creating the same scenario and you are ruining this marriage.

Tink
P.S. What would happen if this wife, somehow, found out that you have been and are spying on her emails?

She has not cheated on me. You're right. Her ex-bf came into the picture and told her that she was the "love of his life" and now this other friend of her cousins asked for her phone number (and cousin felt that was a good thing). She has had phone calls from guys that when I answer, they get weird, she has a guy that lives out of state that feels weird when I'm around.

I've simply had to deal with all of these guys being sharks and looking for a way in, all while keeping my own insecurities in check. She gets defensive about it. That doesn't help.

Bottom line - she is a very attractive girl, and guys know our marriage is on the rocks, so they are now trying to get in while things are weak.

I brought up concerns over emails that I saw when she was living in the house that concerned me because other guys were flirting with her and one even asked for nude pics. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that and she diffused everything by saying it was a joke and then turned it around on me for snooping. I admitted that snooping was not the best thing to do.

I guess I expected that if I told her how I felt about all this, she would understand and try to make things better, but instead she gets defensive, leading me to think there is a reason for her to do so.

Like I said, I am trying to just relax and let go. It's the only way I see this working since she can't even talk to me.