I think you took her out of her comfort zone. Sometimes that's needed to move things. The question is, in which direction will they move?
You didn't mention "the word" much, but I'm assuming that you communicated to her that you love her. That the conversation was coming from your love for her and the family you have together.
I think your problem here has been simply that you don't see any progress being made. Just know that it's difficult to see the progress sometimes when you're dealing with emotional matters. The lack of physical intimacy would certainly be hard. Does she offer physical touch in any way? That is, will she hold your hand, hug you, gently touch you in conversation? At least that would keep you connected a bit.
I guess you see where it goes Mules. There's nothing fundamentally wrong with having this conversation from time to time. It's only fair to all involved to catch up with where she is and where she might think things are headed. Just remember that pressure is not typically a favorite thing for an MLC'er. Be prepared to balance out the talks like this with some time for her to collect herself and stabilize.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
