I am beyond belief of what your father is doing to his own grandchild. Hopefully the judge will not be too hard on the sentencing.
I suspect that this tragedy is bringing you and your H closer together.
Stay strong.
BTW... The last time I stayed in Bandon in the summer, it was cold and windy. I did like the sea food buffet at the restaurant in Charleston and Shore Acres is gorgeous. I need to spend some more time in your neck of Oregon as the fishing in the lakes (Siltcoos, Tahkenitch and Ten Mile) is pretty darn good.