Howdy..havent posted for quite awhile. Spent a lot of time in Newcomers.
Here's the update to my sitch...W and I have been separated since April. Her issues are that we are 'too different' 'ILYBNILWY' and a fleet of the other standard excuses. None of them make any sense to me, especially after all the time we have spent together. These would have come up long ago.
She filed and our court date is in Dec. We have been together 16yrs.
So, Since April, we have had little contact. We share the kids and rarely talk or communicate at all during drop off times. We do occaisionally txt or email each other, but its normally all about the kids.
I pursued big time when I got the bomb. I obviously chased her away. But once she moved out, I totally withdrew. She hasnt followed.
Obviously what I am doing is not working and pursuing didnt work either.
I miss her terribly. I have not communicated with her for several weeks and late the other night I sent her a txt 'i miss u', because I really do. She replied 'really, you dont treat me like you do'. Not sure how to interpret that and not sure how I would act so she felt like I missed her. Does she want me to pursue her some more? And, it seems she's disappointed in my behavior towards her in some way...as if she doesnt like me going dark...
Anyway, I'm a rookie at separation. What I would do to have my W look me in the eye and give me a big hug and kiss...I could use some advice from some wiley veterans.
