My other concern is that she is a WAW from a 20 year marriage that she's been wanting to get out of for 5 years, finally did it and has been D for 8 months, S for a little over 2 years.
She does not speak much of her ex. Which I take to mean a sign of healing.
Scooter,
That is a different sitch..... I personally would never want to be involved with any woman who could do this.... I do not care how much therapy she goes through.... These women have screwed up core values..... To me, these women have a high probability of walking out again.....
As for the "healing," I disagree. I think the very nature of WAWs is they "stuff" their feelings....... She wanted "out of M" for five years.... I do not buy that..... My WAW said she wanted out for three..... Why didn't they tell their H's about their issues? I think it is simply a convenient way to "justify" their actions.... I think most people who "get it" see right through that..... In the end, it is someone simply looking for an excuse they think people will buy..........
So, this woman may take two to five years after the D to really have it "sink in"..... She is just starting this period.....
I would step back and look at this R.... If you are serious about her, spend the money to going to couple's counseling to be sure she understands your R, what you expect from her and ask in that setting how she feels about her exH..... It could be she simply only cares about herself..... Hence, she feels no pain from D.....
NMD
Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 07/22/0803:40 PM.
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