So I guess my question is do you think your H not coming or you not going to him will bring your closer to your goal? Do you think more time apart is what is needed? Maybe giving your H more space and giving yourself more time to regroup?
I think, although obviously I'm not in your shoes, it would be a good thing to see each other. I actually think if you could convince him to come to you that would be the better plan. He would be coming back to hometown, which hopefully would bring about some good memories (although some bad ones might be in there too?).. and he would be very far from OW.
