Well if these people actually exist they were lucky enough to have a choice in what they wanted to do with their lives.
You have my contact information. Give me a call. I will set up conference calls with the neighbors and friends I have listed above.
My life is all about choices. I take full responsibility for the decisions I have made in my life and the consequences of those decisions - including the one to M The X. My decisions are not always right - but they are my own.
The original plan was to have two kids by the time I was 40. Well things did not quit work out that way. It is not the path that I expected - but I have no regrets. It really doesn't matter to me if my children are adopted or biological. And so I am about 10 years off the plan. I can handle that. Besides there are actually some pro's to being a geriatric mother.
Yes SAHM is work. And yes, spending all day with children without any other adults - I imagine can be tough. And without a doubt - there is no real time off. It is a 24/7 job. I disagree with the use of the word sacrifice. It is a choice to do a different job. Every single one of us give up the option of engaging in an alternative when we choose a certain path.
I get that the SAHM works hard. I just want recognition that those of us that work also work hard and stressful and exhausting. It is just different - apples and oranges.
As for alimony. It is my personal opinion - I don't agree with it. I am for spitting the assets acquired during the M 50/50. I am for child support. And if the alimony is necessary to support the children - well the solution IMHO is to change the laws to increase child support. The way the laws are today - The X was eligible for alimony. A man pulling in over 6 figures eligible for alimony after a 5 year M - there is something very wrong with this picture. I use some other forms of leverage to "dissuade him of that notion."
