Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

[Bridgestone]

WCW
this is fulfilling S18 'senior year' family vacation plans he has had for 4 years. We told each of the kids that the summer of the senior year, they could pick out where the family would go on vacation (within reason). He chose DC about 4 years ago and has mapped out the things he wants to see there. H & I are in agreement what we promised him we'd do, shouldn't be negated by our separation.

The initial discussion was that we 'split' the trip. One flies out with them and spends 2 days, and the other comes out 2 days into the trip to finish it & flies back with them. S. hoped we could get along well enough to do it together. I am hoping by then we can too. I am going to book 2 rooms that adjoin so everyone can have their own bed. Or maybe a 2 bedroom suite. We have done that in the past traveling with the kids, even well before the separation.. it was just so H & I could sleep separately from the kids, not from each other.

As far as traveling with someone I won't live with, I have taken several vacations with several people (relatives & not) over my adult lifetime that I wouldn't want to live with either, but they are fun- in a relaxing atmosphere of a cabin at the lake or touring a city, or a road trip- depending on who it is.

H can be fun when away from work. He is attempting to leave work at work when we get together. He is improving.

Lodo:
yes the sex will come up I have no doubts, it does now and we aren't in daily physical contact. how do I feel about it?
Physically or emotionally?

PHysically.. damn, personally I could be in the SSM forum talking with Dancing Queen over there, but it would probably just add to the frustration. Sex was always good with us, I'm a woman in my fourties and hitting my sexual peak.. trust me, it is missed, a lot. It is for me, the one area in our R, where we were 'equals' in the room.

Emotionally... it gets back to my vulnerability and fear of sharing that intimacy with someone who still is not consistent & regular in the care of what is shared emotionally.