Thanks for stopping by. I continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I filed for separation last week and had him served this weekend. He wrote me yesterday to asked why I had filed for legal sep. as opposed to divorce and that he would not sign it. He went on to explain that I was creating more work for him. I don't know where he is getting his legal advice and he obviously didn't read the papers or he would have know that he can request a D in his response, that I am not creating more but less work (I did his dirty work for him), and that he has to sign it or the case will proceed without him. Here he is calling me to help him divorce me. I told him to talk to legal and I was not going to help him divorce me.
I think he is in for a big big big reality check when the effects of me no longer contributing financially hit his wallet and when he has to stand on his own two feet. I can no longer play mommy and assist him everytime he has a problem.
Our talk following his email was surprisingly friendly and matter of fact. I see the potential for things to get ugly but "I" am certainly trying my hardest to avoid any ugliness.
In the past few months I believe God has put people in my life that have been in my sitch and describe their second spouse as the person "they just knew" from the moment they met was the right one. I think he is telling me it's ok but it still hurts like heck.
I in no way think this is the case for everyone and I encourage everyone to keep fighting. I am still standing for my marriage.
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