Kelly Jo The Wifey new thread.

[The Wifey]

(((Suzanne, Neil))) hugs x 2.

I really am a very lucky woman. Until he says that he has made up his mind and that we are done, I have to keep the faith and keep on giving my love to him. That is what is confusing him, I'm sure.

Last night he told me that he felt guilty. I told him that he had nothing to feel guilty about. It was only a little white lie after the day and evening I'd had.

I am ok today. For as long as I can I am going to concentrate on being ok.

[Neilh23]

Kjo-
good for you. not "for as long as you can" but say "I am going to be ok, no matter what."

realize your emotions are normal...it's going to go up and down..think of the coasters at Darien..LOL

YOu validated. good. as difficult as it was, you did. Don't snoop anymore and you will feel better about yourself and your sitch. Feelings like yesterday can take you down a road you don't want to go down.....we all do it. it's how we come out of it that makes all the difference

[The Wifey]

Thanks, Neil. I know you are right. BTW my counselor said it is ok right now that I can't say I'll be ok without him. I know I will get through, but I know if the day comes that he calls us done that I will never be the same. I was relieved that she told me it is ok to feel that right now.

We can't all start out with great strenth. Sometimes it takes a while to get there. And it is ok that I feel that way.

It is somehow reassuring to have her tell me that. I'll get there, but that I just haven't yet.

I love him. I love him with all my heart and soul. We are in God's hands and that is the best place to be right now.

[poet]

And listen to Neil's advice too. It is very good. Neil knows what he's talking about. He has this sixth sense about us all. I love this advice too.

"realize your emotions are normal...it's going to go up and down..think of the coasters at Darien..LOL"

(((((((KJO)))))))

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[The Wifey]

(((Suzanne))) (((Neil)))

That time you didn't have to share hugs. Really, a night's sleep (even though fitful at best) gives a new perspective.

[Neilh23]

He has this sixth sense about us all.

thanks suzanne...i don't think i do tho...LOL...just an unfortunate wealth of experience nad knowledge from my sitch and what others have told me.


now if i could really put that all to work in my sitch...LOL

[The Wifey]

Neil,

You have to believe that you can. Someone (you) told ME that.

You have a wonderful soul and I know you are strong.

[Neilh23]

thank you.......... i know it's true, i just have to believe it. LOL...big difference.

you have strength too......and the fact taht you are here speaks volumes...

you have more strength within yourself than you realize.....trust me.....i know this for a fact. never thought i could do what i am doing right now...never in a million years...yet i am...

[One Day]

Hey Kelly Jo,

Just stopping in to say hello. You've said everything you need to say about yur strategy movging forwards, and I don't have too much to add- I do totally agree that focussing on you, getting yourself strong and maintaining a PMA are the way to go. Your H is definitely confused- that's in your favour- it means you have something to work from!

L. xx

[mrz99]

Hang in there and be strong Kelly Jo