The continuing story of the Lake Erie Shore

[TwinDad]

the funny thing is is that i don't want her to pull back....i feel we are on the verge of something

Of course you don't...you enjoyed yourself as well and you miss it...hence the anger...etc. Love her let her pull back, she is not doing it to be ugly, if she wants to come back she wants to do it for the right reasons....and if she wants to come back she doesn't want to feel like she made a mistake and have to do this all over again.

It is kind of like she is "trying on" the family for a little bit, taking it off, taking a step back and see how she feels. If she misses it she will come back and try it on again....for a longer period of time. If you push her, she will be more hesitant about trying it on again. If you think about it, she is also protecting you a little bit in this way, she knows this isn't easy for you and doesn't want to unnesscessarily hurt you.

The funny thing as you get closer, you will find it more and more difficult to keep your patience......keep your cool.

One other thing from one of your other posts, she may never go to MC and this may be a good thing. I know in my sitch I had begged and pleaded for MC, now I think that would be a huge mistake....nothing significant would happen aside from bringing up old pain. We both know what got us there and we both know what we did wrong and what we need to do better......we have never had an "ah-ha" moment and I honestly don't expect to have one....we are showing things through actions.

Your heart is in the right place....just slow it down a little bit so your mind doesn't race too much