Stop making the phone calls to where the other woman worked.
Stop trying to find out where he is, what he's doing.
Stop.
That takes energy away from you, Makes you head spin around possibilities Takes your focus away from what is good for you Good for your kids.
Stop having your 16 year old do the exchanges. Your youngest is old enough to get a hug from you at the door and then go out to the car with his stuff to his dad. Nothing says you have to talk to each other, more than a wave. Remember, treat your spouse like a neighbor/acquaintance and you have work to do inside. If you don't think you can do it, have a friend or family member help you.
Your spouse has been the star of the show for way too long. You've been anticipating what he's doing, what he wants,.. it's all him him him.
Ms. Sunny... you have this beautiful container full of radiant energy. Do you really want to spend what is so wonderful on him? Isn't it better used on you.. on the kids?
A friend of mine told me to live my life like I'm the leading lady. And guess what? It makes a big difference.
Do what is right for you, what makes you a better person. Do what is right for your children.
