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Originally Posted By: gForce
He's not thinking straight. The reality of what he has done is hitting and he is in a panic. You need to be careful and protect yourself. Like an animal backed into a corner, he is dangerous and unpredictable.
Yeah, I'm thinking so too. Do you really think he could be dangerous though? If so, what can Kat do about that? And Kat that's like the 3rd time your H has used the wrong email!!! Wonder if that's passive-aggressive, stupidity, or he's really lost it or something??? You've only told him every week for the last month or more!!! Karen


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I think it might be a control thing for him, just like the TM. He can have things nice and neat and to the point. No emotion becuse gee that might be bad.

He won't discuss things with me because 1)he is so wrapped up in the fantasy, 2)he still has strong feelings and doesn't want to have to face that and 3) he is being a sh!t and doesn't want to see himself that way. Let's see is it 2 or 1 or all of the above??

I think they mean dangerous because he might just ruin me in his financial well.

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Yes, do all you can to protect yourself and your home. I don't think lodo cares about your H either. You would fall into the same boat. Him still being on the mortgage and IF he were to file bankruptcy would effect your home. Or at least your credit. I would have to do more research, too.

And I believe I have gotten a little taste of the non-meany kat, too.

You can't be sweety all the time. No one can.

Well, maybe Karen \:\) Even when she is mad, she is nice.


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Originally Posted By: karen43
Do you really think he could be dangerous though? If so, what can Kat do about that?n

I didn't mean physically dangerous. Just that he might use the legal process to hurt her any way he can (it has been known to happen). He might say he will provide and support, but that could change in an instant. So continue to believe nothing that he says, and let your L help you protect yourself.


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Oh, and happy birthday to your dad! Have a great time with him!


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Thanks, I need nothing more than a peaceful and fun day. I do feel bad for my Dad though. Yesterday my parents were coming in to town, they live in the country, and I guess my Dad didn't get the hood on the car latched because as they were about a mile from their house, up flies the hood and smashes the windshield!! My dad was not in a good mood.

Hopefully today will be better.

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Dad didn't get the hood on the car latched because as they were about a mile from their house, up flies the hood and smashes the windshield!! My dad was not in a good mood.

Hopefully today will be better.

Speaking of dangerous that sounds scary & dangerous to me!!! You didn't say but I assume your parents are ok though? I'm glad about that! Also glad nobody thinks your H is dangerous dangerous! Whew! I know you can handle financial stuff but yeah, I do think he is probably just going to look out mainly for himself so have to keep that in mind I guess. I think you're a super sweetie btw! \:\) Karen


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(((Kat))) find out all you can about protecting yourself financially. It only puts more stress on an already stressful situation.

Keep your chin up.

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Believe me guys I am trying. I have gone through periods of being so overwhelmed with all of this I am surprised my boss didn't fire me. I am doing so much better than back then. I am constantly thinking of this, there is very little time I think of anything else.

I am exhausted. I am tired of always looking over my shoulder waiting for the end to come. I am feeling like an animal that is being hunted, just waiting for death to come. I have to stop. I'm crying now.

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