Is W in MLC

[yenko69]

Kenny,

Sorry to hear that your W is so angry and resentful. My W was for a little bit, but it lasted about a week. Since then we are on friendly terms.

Since this has started I have found many revelations about myself, my W and our M. It does help some, but still hurts.
Step back for a little bit and reflect upon yourself and what you want. I found it helpful when I fully realized that I could do nothing about what my W does. I can only control my actions and work on being who I want to be.

You can still stand and leave a door open while detaching from the sitch. Step back breathe and find yourself again and work on who you want to be. Let her choose her own path to go down and give her the space to do it.

I fight for my W and my M daily by giving her space, time and her freedom. By working on myself to be who I want to be. There are days when I want to call her and plead/beg, but I don't. I try and take the pressure off of her as much as I can. Sometimes I do slide backwards, but I get better. Yes it does hurt like hell. Hurt this morning when I woke up and wished that I was snuggled up with her.

I have chosen also taken the high road on this and stay true to myself. Whatever happens I still have to live with myself for the rest of my life. Whatever you choose do it so you will not regret it later.

Stay focused and let the pain come and go. As bad as it gets it will pass. I try and use the pain as a tool to stay motivated to improve myself and so that in another relationship I do not make the same mistakes that I did in my past R with my W. I have also let the past R die and grieved for that loss. I have not let the M go, I just don't dwell on it.

I feel your pain. My thoughts are with you also. Post if you feel really bad and I will try and lift your spirit the best that I can. You are not alone in this.