My husband works as a Chief Engineer for a Film and Computer Animation School at a University.
I thank you for the hugs. Yes I'm floundering. The bomb keeps having afershocks just when I think I'm doing ok.
I am going to C tonight, thank God! I don't know what my night is going to be like.
Lola, you are right. This definitely feels like a panic attack.
Thank you all for caring. It means so much to me right now.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
He said I can see what life without spouse will be like, not would be like. Sounds pretty sure of himself. Sounds pretty bad and I can't just ignore it.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Kjo.... time to get out your rubber coat.....let it bounce off of you. Do you really think he'll be happier in the long term? Really? Do you really think he knows whats going on?
Cmon....you know better....
Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see......
best thign for you to do...get away from him....today. I know you were GALing all weekend..but it's thrown you for a loop today....take a break...relax....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
He said I can see what life without spouse will be like, not would be like. Sounds pretty sure of himself. Sounds pretty bad and I can't just ignore it.
Yes you can. It's only the moment. He doesn't know what YOU know. Let him think whatever. It's like children. You know best. Don't sweat it girlfriend. Just up your pampering level.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
C was good for me. I cried and let it all out and told her everything that I had read. She agrees that there may be a bit of a EA with Ginny. Even though he isn't into her relationship - wise, he is definitely flattered by being her confidant.
We wound up by talking about my faith. I put everything into the hands of God. She asked me to go home and go in the back yard and just give everything over to him.
It had its intended outcome. I felt stronger and able to go on, with God's help.
I still love him. I have to be strong. Although she said it was ok that I cried with her because this is painful. She also asked me to look past what I read and to look at my husband and to realize that he is confused.
He still says he loves me. He is conflicted. He is confused, yes. And he is still at the house. He still sees me and talks to me and kisses and hugs me every day. I have to be thankful for those things.
Anything more will just take time. I have to start finding uplifting things for me. Not just things to keep me busy but things that inspire me.
It will take time and with your help and support, and the Lord on my side, I will somehow make it to the other side of this river. It has a rough current and I can barely keep my head above water at times, but I have the love I feel for my husband burning inside of me. It keeps me warm in the cold water.
Thank you to everyone that supported me when I was panicking. I promise to do the same for anyone that needs me. My most inspiring days are when I can reach out to help someone else.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Kjo...i'm happy for you. really. it's good to get out your emotions....good, bad, and otherwise...
you have a lot going for oyu....look for the small things.
it's ok to get upset and frustrated too tho. it's a normal process. it's how you deal with those feelings is important and how you react to them.....around other people, esp. your H.......that makes the biggest difference...
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
"He still says he loves me. He is conflicted. He is confused, yes. And he is still at the house. He still sees me and talks to me and kisses and hugs me every day. I have to be thankful for those things.'
Goodness, Wifey, these are fantastic signs of love and affection. IMHO, you REALLY have a big chance here to save your marraige. My H says he doesn't need the affection, and doesn't give it unless I initiate it. So, you're way ahead of the game. Keep it up. You're doing fabulously.
