The continuing story of the Lake Erie Shore

[TwinDad]

the adjusting thing...yeah..she's said that....i wanted to blurt out "well the best thing for them is for us to be together..." again, but didn't.

There isn't a LBS with kids that hasn't felt that way. You did great to hold your tongue. There will be a definitive contrast bewteen the best co-parenting and when the four of you get together for family time. During these times she wil ldoubt her decision and your DB skills will shine through.....patience

i can tell she's pulling back a bit. she's not too keen on taking the kids to the county fair now....again, because she doesn't want them to expect something dramatic when the four of us are together.

The pull back is normal....give her loving space she will come back. It is actaully good that she doesn't want to have a big event each time the four of you get together. That to me tells me she wants to know what "normal" family time will be like....that is excellent. As far as the fair goes...if you have the kids then take them. Just have fun. Don't send her pix messages while there or anything else to make her feel guilty for not going. If she contacts you then be nice and friendly.

I wouldn't read too much into the books, they are geared towards D, probably because there are no books that say "Mommy and Daddy are taking a break for a little bit"