Call HER in a few days and see how she's doing. Listen. Share how much this bothered you, but that you respected what she was saying. Talk about what the appropriate JOINT response would be. That way you are working together as a couple, which is your goal.
Your dad's actions (or her perception of them) is a perfectly WRONG way to allow anger and frustration out.
Just listen to her. It's not the time for the nifty spandex super hero costume.
