Detatching is very difficult. You have grow dependent on your W. Now you are being told not to do that.
What you need to remember is that detatching from someone does not mean you do not love them it means you give them the space to be themselves and you the space to be yourself. You are trying to make yourself happy and she needs to do the same.
Once you find your inner peace and what makes you happy and truely love yourself then you can love someone else. But if you are so dependent on your W to do this for you it will be like an anchor to her, weighing her down until she drowns.
That is where I see you at. You need to GAL to not be an anchor to her but a safe port where she can come to. You want her to be with you because she wants to, not because you need her to be with you or she feels that is what you want her to do.
