I'm not trying to hit you with 2x4's. I see alot of me in your H and I am just trying to tell you how I was feeling and acting. Maybe it is what is going thru his mind as well. It could be why he seems to be doing things that seem strange to you but normal to someone who was there once.
Keep trying different approches to get thru to him. He is just as afraid of being hurt again as you are. Someone needs to make the first move. I have put my feelings on the line because I want to show my W that I am commited to the M, she is not right now. You are the commited one and need to show him some trust.
All of us hate to be vulnerable and have that chance to get hurt but until someone puts that foot foward the R will contiune to be stagnet or worse go backwards until there is nothing left but to end it.
Its your decision on the room in DC. But this might be a good opportunity to show him you are willing to try. Just make sure there are two beds and let him know you are in one and he is in the other. Seperate but working towards together.
