Communication has been much better since the resceduling of our talk. I can sense the relief he is feeling.He has sent an e-mail and an affectionate text in the last few days. I sent him a friendly postcard I thought he would like and he texted back right away to thank me. Other than that I dont pursue,never ring him or text etc. Know he is still working things out. Now people say I am being naive and that he is cake eating. To some extent this is true. But I have to go on my gut feeling -(Ive known him 28 years.)He doesnt want a divorce. Because he still loves me "You are so dear to me not a day goes by that I dont think about you" -but not in THAT way-(ILYBINILWY)and also he is frightened of the financial settlement /arrangement looming. Ive made it clear that if we dont agree on another option I will divorce him and Ive said if he forces me to this I wont forgive him,because of the cowardly ending.Last time we spoke I said you are giving up your closest friend and the one who loves you best .That really hit home. He is totally confused,not well physically ,and struggling to function at work-he told me this.I love him but can do nothing but wait,make sure I look after my financial needs and carry on with my life alone.Ive fought to save this marriage because I am certain we could be happy and I know he would regret it. If he is doubtful now he would spend the rest of his life thinking what if...This site and being able to put my thoughts down has kept me sane.I pray that all the others in distress here find peace and resolution.
