Gals you MUST read "Revenge Of The Middle Aged Woman" by Elizabeth Buchan, and a related book (the next part to this story) "Wives Behaving Badly." The revenge theme you are talking about is played out in these books. The first wife is completely devistated when her young assistant steals her H., but she ends up pulling through and creating a great life. In the second book the OW ends up realizing that what she got wasn't a treasure... I won't say much more... you've got to read it!!!

Bluerain, you are young and don't have children. If I were in your shoes, I would definitely be very hesitant about reconciliation. I think DBing for you is about GALing, healing, and moving on. The things you learn you will be able to bring into future relationships.

But it sounds like you already know that. Smart girl! \:\)

P.s. I believe guys still heavily outnumber women in Alaska... Yeeeeeah!!!!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.