I would just really like to know what made him post this? Maybe there's something more to the story?.
I've been a human ATM in my 1st M. Vowed never to be one again.
I'm really going to need to digest the good points you've all made. Feeling so confused because of the volume of quality information to understand at the moment.
My other concern is that she is a WAW from a 20 year marriage that she's been wanting to get out of for 5 years, finally did it and has been D for 8 months, S for a little over 2 years.
Her previous H was to a professional that gave her a good lifestyle but pulled it when she wanted out. From the settlement 2 years ago, she set herself up with new house, new car, big screen TV...all the extra's like she was going to continue the high life.
It just seems to me that after 2 years, the wheels are starting to fall off the cart so to speak. That's what I'm reading between the lines.
In my former M, though we were asset rich, after the fire sale there was very little to share and I'm proud that I was able to claw my way back after 5 years. I just don't want to be in the same financial sitch a second time.
The good points is that she demonstrates how deeply in love she is with me. It seems genuine but it could be an just an act or a combination of both.
We enjoy spending time together at her home. Her children are late teens and I can see that they aren't warming to me no matter what I do.
We don't go out hardly at all. It's always at her house.
Since her S, she hasn't moved on socially, doesn't have many friends and I am her first romantic interest since her exH.
She does not speak much of her ex. Which I take to mean a sign of healing.
