LWB, we need to go to the landing together and just cut loose one night. Wow, I cant believe that it really is going to go that fast. Because I already filed with a L, I have all of the financial docs prepared. I dropped the bomb on STBXH that I am going to ask for indefinate support. He got really angry with me on that one. Wanted to know why I thought I should be able to live off of HIS money and how was that moving on? Told him it had nothing to do with moving on and everything to do with trying to financially take care of S. We'll see how that goes over in mediation.
I keep trying to reason with a crazy person, whats the point in that? I remember when you first posted to me a couple of months ago, I was such a mess. I never thought I would recover, and now here I am able to laugh and enjoy life again. You were a lifeline back then, so thank you for that. I hope it helps to know that even though you are going through this awful time, you have been so helpful to and loved by many of the members here. You will never be alone. Thanks for the reply.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Spent a little time today going back as far as I could on your threads, wanted to read about how you dealt with H living at home and when you came to the conclusion that he had to leave...
WOW!! Such grace under pressure... and a great way to set a boundary when you asked/told H to move out...
Oh my brokenhearted. Thank you so much. I remember the raw pain, the hurt, the insomnia, everything. Its almost *too* painful to recall it, and I never want to be there again. If someone told me last summer I would feel so good this summer, I would have laughed. Time heals. Its just takes awhile!
I just hate that you are here.
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I keep trying to reason with a crazy person, whats the point in that?
I kept doing it too. We try because we can see how irrational they are being, but they can't see it. I finally shut up about the house and money and sure enough, H came around and saw my reasonings, only after I shut it! And don't worry about not having everything settled before mediation, they are there to help work things out.
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and now here I am able to laugh and enjoy life again
That makes me so happy!!! Your H will go crazy seeing you truly happy. No more faking it for us, its real. Yes, the divorce still hurts a lot, but we know now it won't kill us. I really thought it would at one point.
(((brokenhearted)))
And yes, we'll have to hit the Landing. Hope11 and I have done that, on Mardi Gras even!!! We actually met up with OW's H for a drink. So funny!!
Drunken Fish is one of H's infidelity spots (where he and OW used to go), so nope. Haven't been there, but might reclaim it and go myself. Maybe I'll make Hope11 go with me. I have heard its great.
Thats pretty brave of you to go there knowing it was a place he took her. I dont think I could do that, but hey, what do I know. I never thought that I would be the who filed for D. Never thought I would ever be able to laugh again. So never say never, right!
I am looking forward to the day that I feel at peace with all of this. LWB, I am amazed at how well you have always handled this. How long does it take before you can look at WAS and think, nope, dont really want them anymore? Even after all of the horrible things he has done, I still think that if he asked to come back I would say yes, even knowing that he is not good for me. <Sigh> I know, this too will pass. Thanks for the support. I so appreciate it.
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Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
But I am willing to travel to test out other "Landings"!