It's been a little of both. Following from the backslides to doing what you're doing now with the detachment. I'm working on the detachment stuff right now, and it's hard as hell for a number of reasons - not the least of which I love my wife.
Ken
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!