That is very true. There are two LBS women that use to post on this BB that accepted the child support but declined alimony from their H's even though they were entitled to it by law.
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And why was this brought up?
Why do you think???
There is nothing wrong with fighting for alimony And I guarantee nor would 98% of spouses that were entitled to it because we know the unselfish effort and love that went into doing our job. To be honest, I resent the implcations.
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That doesn't make any person less of a person, or mark them as unable to make it on their own 2 feet.
Of course it doesn't. If it was truly a partnership then IT'S OUR MONEY AS WELL and that's the law.
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These type of systems are in place for a reason. I was raised by very old school parents, that came to this country with zero.
My father of all people said don't you dare feel guilty for accepting what the courts say you are entitled to.
AMEN!!!
If, additionally, a woman has left her career to care for her family, she is at a distinct disadvantage financially... she will probably not catch up to where she would be if she had never married and had children... Alimony seeks to compensate her and more so their children for the sacrifices she made...
So true. Besides leaving a good paying job and a exciting career, I moved all across the country numerous times for ex, making it impossible to move up in any career had I had the luxury of staying in 1 place long enough. Even though I have the job I love, if I had stayed where I was after getting pregnant, who knows where I might have been, both career wise and geographically speaking.
Only someone who didn't have a choice would make these statements.
