By the way, she comes back over there to use her womanly features against you like she did on the 4th...either deny her or tell her you're sick, or put yourself in a detached place in your mind and just make it about the "deed"...the "deed" got you all negative brother.
I was gonna ask a question about this lastnight if you had another oppurtunity to be with her if you would. I ask that cause this time you probably would be more cautious knowing what it brought upon yourself. I know if I get in that sitch again, Im gonna have to maybe act like I will then just say I cant. This is probably what I would say "Im not good enough to be your husband, I not good enough to be with you on this level anymore".
Oh man, I was just writing about knowing she hasnt filed but went back and read where she said she was going to. This might just be a scare tactic to make herself feel better or get the change out of you she is looking for or something. As hard as it is, they are just papers. Maybe when and if it gets rolling, she will see more finances occuring and not such an easy path to go.
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M-31 W-28 S7 D2.5 T 8, M 4 W filed 2-14-08 D on hold 3/08 D off hold 5/08 D to be final on/by Nov 08 Anniv 9-4 looked hopeful
wont let me edit it so I was just thinking, when they throw themselves at they must be thinking that is one more thing they have control of since we never turn it down.
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M-31 W-28 S7 D2.5 T 8, M 4 W filed 2-14-08 D on hold 3/08 D off hold 5/08 D to be final on/by Nov 08 Anniv 9-4 looked hopeful
Yes I have heard that before, I realize some of it was spew, but the tone was different then before, only time will tell. Either way it is what it is.
I understand they were examples, and all of them are hard things to deal with. In my 1st marriage I came home to my then W in bed with another man, I certainly respect the position of other people on here there is nothing easy about any of it. I am glad you have found that inner peace in yourself I know one day I will get there, you and others give me that hope.
I felt I owed that to the board...
I do have a woe is me problem as do I with assumption most of that is just being a pesimist I am working on it
I didn't let her bait me but at times I did defend myself. She told me to quit validating and just be honest, so I did just that it got to a point where I simply said you say you want mne to be honest and constructive but you are angry and upset and not in a frame of mind to listen and I will not argue with you. I said you have to do what you think is best for you, I think it best to just leave it there for now and said goodbye.
By the way, she comes back over there to use her womanly features against you like she did on the 4th...either deny her or tell her you're sick, or put yourself in a detached place in your mind and just make it about the "deed"...the "deed" got you all negative brother.
I was gonna ask a question about this lastnight if you had another oppurtunity to be with her if you would. I ask that cause this time you probably would be more cautious knowing what it brought upon yourself. I know if I get in that sitch again, Im gonna have to maybe act like I will then just say I cant. This is probably what I would say "Im not good enough to be your husband, I not good enough to be with you on this level anymore".
Oh man, I was just writing about knowing she hasnt filed but went back and read where she said she was going to. This might just be a scare tactic to make herself feel better or get the change out of you she is looking for or something. As hard as it is, they are just papers. Maybe when and if it gets rolling, she will see more finances occuring and not such an easy path to go.
jandn...
I have given that some thought and though it may be a mute point at present, I decided that I wouldn't do it again. I can't displace myself enough to just let it be sex. That has been 1 of my biggest mistakes, it was what I allowed to get me where I am today
