Having the morning off work lazing in bed

W comes round unexpected for breakfast. Ends up lounging on the bed talking for an hour. Very chirpy

Suggested i might want the kids for three nights per week instead of 2 when i am less busy

Tells me about more revelations that she has been having - this time re children - that she has just realised how burdened she has felt for years.

Also when she is not being demanded upon how she is returning to her "soft" self as she used to be.

She got tears in her eyes then and we ended up hugging on the bed for ages. I could feel her consciously stop the hug although i know she didn't want to.

She said she had been wanting to hug me for ages.

W looked out the window and said "it still feels like home"

Resisted the urge strongly to say "what the f***k are we doing being separated"

Just acknowledged all she said and was as warm and friendly as i could be. Not talking and just listening and acknowledging and letting her go at her speed seems to be working. No pressure

Spending time with her looking in her eyes absolutely messes me up. I am trying to reduce contact for my own good but thought this time was worth the pain of the benefit.

If i had read the above anywhere else on this forum i would have thought a big leap forward - i my situation knowing my wife i just don't know. I keep thinking she is different but if i'm objective she seems to be a typical WAW - really not sure


Anyone got any comments - go for you life because I'm getting dazed and confused