Mulesqb - Still alive and Kickin'

[faithisbelieving]

mules..it's a tough choice, but, I wouldn't go. That's just me. It's too complicated I guess to put into words, but, the away for the weekend with the neighbors...just doesn't feel right.

You have to make the call.

As to your question, I don't think my W was any different than most of the spouse's here. I think she became unhappy...voiced that then stopped. We, as men, think everything is OK because they stop complaining. Then, they slowly subtract themselves from the M/R while we think all is hunky dory until we get the bomb. We get bloodied with a right jab that we never saw coming. We go back to our corner all bloodied and head spinning..then..we finally 'come to'. I got bombed in May '06. Using my retrospectoscope, she began to withdraw fall '04.

This is a LONG ROAD and they usually have to hit bottom before they come back, but, each sitch is different. You need to get off the rollercoaster...expect outbursts....and get rid of your anger. By detaching, you refocus on you. By refocusing on you, you get to ENJOY YOURSELF again. By enjoying yourself and finally coming to the realization that you AREN'T THE TERRIBLE HUSBAND that they make you out to be, they see a happy guy moving off to better places. Then....if you're lucky....they want back in. Sadly, some men don't after they see more clearly.

Think.

How does your W look at you and what does she see?

Does she see a happy strong guy...or...an 'as if' guy with hidden anger on his face?

Think.

FIB