Sending positive vibes to my H!

[TwinDad]

TD- so true- we did end up in the hot tub and that was the last thing on my mind...so funny how that works. so i will just be calm, cool and collected...should i invite him after dinner to the hot tub again? im sure it will be fine- all of our interactions have been 100% positive ( from my pov!)

Did you invite him in the last time...if so then yes if it feels right to you...don't force it. Either way you know you ladies are in complete control of that part of the R.....since the dawn ot time...lol

TD- i was looking at your posts- when and how did your W say she wanted to come home? is this something i leave totally to him to say?

When we split she bought a house and I just rented, so I actually came home even though I was the LBS. It was after a week her not having the kids, she spent the weekend with us and then had to go home. She called me shortly there after and had this conversation

W - I forgot to pick up wine (it was sunday and we always drank wine on sunday night)
Me - Were you going to drink it alone
W - No
Me - I guess you would like me to come over there and bring wine
W - You might as well move back in, all men are a-holes, at least I know you and you are the father of my children

(I could think of no better response than to say....)
Me - Yeah you are right (DB validation...lol), besides all women are b!tches and at least I know you and you are th emother of my children.

Not exactly a ringing endorsement...but progress lol. I moved back in about 2 days lates, but respected her space by still taking it slowly. I stayed there and only moved a few things at a time. It has been about 8 weeks and the moves are coming to bring the furniture this week (in the garage for a garage sale).

You are doing great...you have a pretty good grip on what is going through your H's head...he has also been very open. If he seems awkward, give him space, if he seems calm and "normal" advance a little or stay where you are. I am confident you will do great tonight!

Best Wishes!!!