Newbie..need clarity..I feel the fat lady has sung

[Sugar and Spice]

(((Kerrysal)))

I came to read your thread after your post to me the other night. This may not be the best advice, but until your H shows you some changes, I would not let him anywhere near my house. You have to believe actions, not words. Believe nothing that you hear and only 1/2 of what you see. Any "REAL" change is going to be gradual and will last more than a couple of days/weeks/months. It sounds like your H is sick and needs help, the kind that you are not able to provide for him. You didn't say if you and your girls are in any sort of C? If not, get some. Its such a good thing and if your 4 year old is having issues now then not addressing them will only make it that much harder to do later.

I'm so sorry you are here and I understand how if feels to have the person you love treat you in a way that makes you question everything that you so want to believe. The only solace I can offer is, sick people do horrible things and often are not able to help it. Are you sure that pot is the only drug he is doing? You have read my sitch, so you know the crap I have put up with, the only saving grace my DAH has is my knowledge of the man he used to be, before this addiction took hold of his life.

I can't tell you what to or not to do, only you can decide that, but I will advise you to get some professional C for yourself and your kids, keep him out of the house until he shows you that he is serious and start to build a life with your kids without him. I have done that and as hard as it is, I know we will make it. I have to be the one to show my DS how a woman SHOULD be treated. I have to be the one to show DD how a woman SHOULD be treated. I have to value myself as a woman and that sometimes is the hardest part of all.

I'll be here for you as best I can.