Better that you are screaming and yelling here--not sending her text messages, emails, or calling her. I am not a WAW though, so I make no promises as to what SC or some of hte others may do!
I am the LBS, like you, and I have done my fair share of screaming into pillows. You are doing great, do not let this become a backslide.
Whiel I understand, from personal experience, how hard this is for you and the kids, at least your W is considering ways to mitigate the damage--if that is possible. She HAS to do this to make herself feel better about her choices. This is no reflection on you--it is all on her.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7