Detach...you are still looking for 'the lightening bolt'. It's not coming mules. Now I have to take out my stick..for the first time. If reconciliation is going to come...it's not happening today or tomorrow. Her behavior is still self-focused and does NOT include the boys.

Start moving in a direction that has YOU as the focus right now or she'll steamroller you emotionally. If....IF....my W is wishing reconciliation, it started after 2 years of suffering, infidelity and a divorce proceeding. You are just at the beginning of your sitch. If you grasp that, you will let go (I didn't say D) NOW and see how the cards fall.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;