Does this make you uncomfortable or has it thrown any red flags at you? If so why?
I don't agree with some of the advice that you have been given. People who are healthy don't look at a person as a paycheck, and we certainly can't help who we fall in love with. I believe that if we could then some of us would not have made the choices we did, but hopefully most of us have learned something from that.
Look, I agree with the fact that maybe she is just comfortable enough with you that she is not only looking for an ear, but also values your advice. Not everyone has an agenda and personally I wouldn't want to go through life thinking that they do.
Maybe the next time the subject comes up you can ask her some pointed questions. Chances are she doesn't have any idea that this seems to leave you uncomfortable. Besides, she knows that you have been through a divorce. It may never even have occurred to her that you any any extra money laying around. All I'm really saying is we have to be open. There are a lot of good people out there. I don't ever want to be the type of person who always looks for the negative in others and end up years down the road a very unhappy person. As we all know there are already too many of those in this world!
Listen to your gut AND your heart. Look at NMD, he did just that and he now has a very happy life.
Oh and I agree with Ellie, an offer to pay for a babysitter every now and then would be a really nice gesture!
