Kelly Jo The Wifey new thread.

[The Wifey]

Well I want you all to know that I am not strong. I've put myself into God's hands. I can't do this myself. I ate half a sandwich for lunch and promptly threw it up afterwards.

[sgctxok]

"My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness " ....for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong." from 2 Corinthians 12


You're already good.

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Kelly Jo))))))

We are with you! Let's work on taking care of you for a while. Realizing that you can't do it by yourself is a good thing!

[mulesqb]

KJ - Stop thinking like that. I know you've visited my thread a few times. I have had the same thoughts only to have them turn quickly. I know that will keep happening throughout this grueling process. Hang tough and lose the negative thoughts. I feel for you, I know how hard this is. Find a way to start thinking positive!

[LolaL]

(((Kelly Jo)))

Okay I have typed this twice today, and it was so great, I am going to send it with you.

My friend was at church this weekend, and her paster said this: when one door closes, another one opens. Sometimes, though, it does not open right away. So you are stuck waiting in the hallway. The hallway is a time for growth, self reflection, and to take care of other things other than the issue at hand. When your growth is complete, the door begins to open.

Take this time in the hallway to focus on you, and remember, men never tell their friends that they have "feelings". That would make them less macho. It's a guy thing, and it doesn't have anything to do with you.

Also, and I do this with love, <SLAP> on the hand. Stay outta the e-mail. It is hard, I know. But sometimes, you can completely misread a situation, not know what it means, and drive yourself crazy.

Lola

[The Wifey]

Lola,

I feel myself crumbling, dear. I did so well with DB'ing over the weekend. It seems like he already has decided. It may just be too late. I don't know how I will go on if this is the case. I thought we had more time, that I had a chance. I thought it wasn't over. HE said he was confused and just needed space.

[Neilh23]

Kjo...stop it. you are only going to create what you look to avoid. stop thinking negative thoughts. i know, harder to do than say, but you can do it.....really.....honestly.....stay positive.

[LolaL]

Kelly Jo: Just relax, Honey, and breath. I know it is hard, and the weight on your chest hurts. But just remember, it ain't over until its over. And he has not said to you that it is over. Sometimes, even when they do, its not over. Its just the thoughts that are racing through their heads. You can't control it. Just breath...slowly, deeply, with both feet on the ground, out of your shoes. Focus on one thing, and let it not be the sitch right now. Close your eyes, picture a beach, blue water, a daquiri, and breath. This is a panic attack, and I get them all the time (in the midst of one right now as a matter of fact). But it will pass. Just will yourself to calm down.

(((((((((((((((((((Kelly Jo)))))))))))))))))))

[mulesqb]

KJ - I'm a man and I know I have said negative things to other men about my sitch that I didn't mean. Men like to paint a rosey picture. Be strong, be confident in yourself.

[mishka422]

KJ - I have just recently started reading your thread and admit I don't now your whole back story but you sound like you are floundering and I wanted to lend my support.

(((((Kelly Jo)))))

In order to grow love in your R, you have to love yourself first. To love yourself you have to find your self-worth.

KJ, it seems to me, and I could be totally wrong, that you have forgotten to look at the wonderful things about you and build on them. If your own son is telling you that your H is walking on you then you are being a bit of a doormat darling.

May I ask, what does your H do for a living? Someone made mention of him telling you what to do regardless of what he did for a living and it made me curious.