I respectfully disagree. While there may be a more elegant way to phrase it, that comes across as less "blaming," I do think it's very important to continue to reiterate to a wayward or otherwise walkaway spouse that you do NOT want to divorce. That you are willing to work on the marriage.
I was also counseled that this is a good thing LEGALLY to say, for many reasons.
I do think that when spouses are wayward, if you say "black" they're going to tend to say "white," and it IS an overall good idea not to get into battle mode with them, but on this one issue, I think one needs to be clear.
