I will read up on your sitch and try to post from home tonight. I can't read or post much at work.

Internet goblins are everywhere! LOL!

One quick thing I will tell you is FW came clean right away. i found an email string while he was in the shower and confronted him as soon as he got out. He admitted and moved out that afternoon. He's unusual though, most will deny even if you have undeniable proof (pictures) that it's going on.

I exposed it to everyone. No keeping it secret. Affairs thrive because in part they are a fantasy (not all, but a lot are). Many will not survive when exposed to the harsh light of reality. Not recommended by most here to take that route, but it worked for me.

BFM

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
David Burns, Intimate Connections