We are back from our Retrovaille weekend. We are exhausted physically and emotionally. We cried most of the weekend, and worked very hard. We are now in a very different spot then before the weekend. We have hope. It took a good deal into the weekend before I felt it. But, it is now there. I feel it. It is no longer just words, it is a feeling. We will be clinging to the dialoguing that we learned and will be attending each post session. We need them. The most valuable thing about the weekend was hearing the speakers. I could relate to each one of them and saw myself in each one of them. Everyone who is about to divorce or is thinking of separating should go to this weekend. It will stop most divorces I am sure. Even though they say that you need to not have a third party involved when coming, one speaker told how she had seen the OM 2 days before their weekend. During their weekend she had told her H that she still felt unsure about whether to leave the OM. Her H almost left the weekend. But, they made it. The week does not solve your problems, but I see things so differently now.
My H called in sick today. He is playing with our S downstairs. One of the reasons he stayed home is so that I can catch up on some work that is far behind. So, that is what I need to do.
I'll talk more later, but wanted to update all of you. I, my H, and my son have hope.....makes me tear up just saying THAT!
Just trying to make the point that the progress that WDID has made is because both she and her husband have squarely confronted their issues, their demons, and stretched themselves well outside of their comfort zones.
