Do I have a gold digger on my hands that I am heavily attracted to?
I don't know if your "friend" is a gold digger.
However, based on conversations with women that do not have significant incomes, in many cases, a man's income is a factor that many women consider in deciding whether to date a man.
In college - women flocked to engineer, med students and lawyers. They had to ban non-law students from the law library b/c there were too many H hunters hanging out there.
I have a cardiologist friend that "abused" the fact that women gravitated towards him in droves b/c of his profession.
A lawyer friend, after his D, used dating sites to date women that he had no intention of getting serious with. He said that once he posted his income - it was like being let loose in a candy store.
I have attended a number of rich housewife gatherings where women asked me why I wasn't dating - if for no other reason "didn't I want the paycheck" that a H brings to the table. Another woman told me that I was lucky to be able to afford to live where I live b/c so many women have to M the right man to be able to afford to live here.
I also know women that had incomes BEFORE they got M and AFTER they got M decided that they no longer wanted to work and have a sense of entitlement based on traditional social norms - that a woman has the right to stay at home by virtue of her gender.
I think the whole "is a woman dating you for your money" thing is something to be mindful of when dating. I myself am a big proponent of a pre-nup. If I ever get M again - there will be a pre-nup regardless of who makes more. I did the 50/50 split of assets where it was to The X's advantage once - have no intention of doing it again.
