Wow what a Sunday. Nothing like cleaning 1500 square foot of hardwood floor on your hands and knees. I don't think it has been done since I installed it. I can tell walking barefoot on it now how clean it feels. Murphy's oil soap, what a wonderful product.
Well let me say that I did pretty well with my wife on Saturday. She tried to pick a fight over something stupid and I didn't let it affect me. I ended up sitting with her for a half hour and watched our daughters all star game.
Sunday was pretty much uneventful but she texted me two long paragraphs at 7 Am in the morning. I was still up, couldn't sleep. I responded back. She said our son was up all night sick do not call about church as they went to Saturday Night Mass. Said she would call later on. Of course she never did. She texted me a 4 and asked if I could take son to Dr's. tomorrow if she could get him in early.
Now I choose to not respond to this. Its a hot button. Always has been. I was always accused of never taking the children to the doctors for visits or occasional sickness. Same thing with her visits.
Dah, because I'm the working one. If I would go in late or take off work to do these things I wouldn't have a job. I also never take vaction days because I never know what is going on with my job. It's a year by year contract that is always in jeopardy. I always bank my vacation because I know that they would have to pay it out to me if I was laid off. That would be a mortgage payment.
Another case of damn if you do, damn if you don't.
Now if I would have responded to the text about the doctors. I believe she would have pushed me into a fight. She doesn't have to work until 10 AM. If she calls at 8 and gets him in then she should do it. She is so accomadating to her new job, but I should still make mine suffer. However my job is a career and it is still paying for all this. You get the point.
The other angle is by not responding she was going to respond back to me that I don't care about my kids.
Well on my way to work. I texted is he feeling better.
She texted back yes he is better.
Fights avoided on all ends.
I figured out what she does. She will look for anything to make a problem into it. If I walk the wrong way she'll say something.
I'm a little confused though. I asked her when her and I are going to get along and she said now. How? Stop picking fights with me.
Why then is she nit picking everything and making mountains out of mole hills?
About this schedule mess. Yes I know that if we had a better schedule plenty of our mess would be avoided.
She doesn't want to make a schedule. Because her life is not that planned. She is so disorganized. She couldn't even have a schedule. I believe they other part of not having a schedule is that she can fall back on these stealth tactics. Get me all fired up and using the kids as bait. Trying to make me look like the neglectful one.
One thing I did text her back on Sunday. I said you need to tell your work what schedule you want.
She didn't respond back to that.
On Sunday she also wanted five bucks to go to Burger King after the game. I refused and said calmly did you give me five bucks to take them to the movies last night. Well I'm going to take you to court and file for child support.
Well I thought you said we were not going to court. I said if you would talk to me in a adult like manner than plenty of this could be avoided. I gave you 5K already. How much more do you need? Do you want to agree on something.
She said that will never happen and she will never talk to me.
That was pretty much a standstill. However like I said I still sat there with her for a 1/2 hour. We had some small talk about our son's haircut.
I didn't respond to her anger and it made for a rather pleasant game watching.
I really think the woman is bipolar.
After the game. There was a bad accident and she got trapped behind the traffic. I was able to get through. I called her to warn her to go a different way. She isn't very good with directions. However I was able to talk to her about a different route.
We lost the connection. An hour later. I texted her. Did you get out of that mess ok. She said Yes. I said you the woman.
You know this is going to be a very difficult road. I had to grieve. I probally should not have posted all the dysfunctional effents on this board. However it may have sped up my learning process.
I had a very hard month. Now I feel like a great big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don't care what she does anymore. She can act like an idiot.
One thing I noticed that became upbundantly clear to me is how my wife wears her makeup now. She used to wear it very softly with light browns and some color. Now she wears very very dark eyeliner around her eyes. It doesn't look good. It makes her look crazy. I really feel sorry for her. I mean she has changed drastically. People are noticing.
I had some friends come up to me yesterday when I went out to eat. They said they saw my wife and kids at Burger King. My friend said she looked like a distraught crazy woman.
That is just sad.
I also noticed that most of my problem with my wife and this seperation is the physical attraction. I told you I just would wear the womans skin, it never would matter how she acted.
Yes, I believe I tolerated her. Her behavior has got worse, and I was responding to that behavior to the point of seperating us.
Now I have plenty of work to do. I'm going to Man UP!
